I've just been scouring the internet for information on how to deal with someone with anxious depression. I have made it my personal mission whilst being here to try and get my in-laws out of the house at every available opportunity so that they see more than the wall opposite the sofa.
My father in law spends his whole day anxious and guilty and apart from odd occasions when he makes a huge effort and appears almost like his old self (for a fragment of time) he is a nervous shaking wreck.
I know it's an illness, I know it's not his fault, but it is so hard to not get frustrated at his inability to see a single positive in life. He spends his whole day worrying about something or other. My mother in law thinks that I think she is harsh and cruel because she sometimes loses her rag. I'm sure I would too if I had been dealing with this for as long as she has, but I try to see things through fresh eyes.
So what do you do? Try to get him to look on the bright side? Tell him again and again what a wonderful person he is and that this illness is no fault of his own? Bully him into silence from the noises he makes that drive his wife mad?
I wish I knew the answer.